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The costs of camouflaging autism

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Many girls hide their autism, sometimes evading diagnosis  well into adulthood. These efforts can help women  on the spectrum socially and professionally,  but they can also do serious harm.


by Except for her family and closest friends, no one in Jennifer’s various circles knows that she is on the spectrum. Jennifer was not diagnosed with autism until she was 45 — and then only because she wanted confirmation of what she had figured out for herself over the previous decade. Most of her life, she says, she evaded a diagnosis by forcing herself to stop doing things her parents and others found strange or unacceptable. (For privacy reasons, Jennifer asked that we not use her last name.)
Over several weeks of emailing back and forth, Jennifer confides in me some of the tricks she uses to mask her autism — for example, staring at the spot between someone’s eyes instead of into their eyes, which makes her uncomfortable. But when we speak for the first time over video…

The Essential Narcissism of Parenthood

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When does our desire for a better version of ourselves become unhealthy? Telling a parent not to be narcissistic is about as useful as telling a child to ignore a candy store’s display window. It does not work. Parents are wired to look at their babies as mirrors of their more perfect selves. We cannot eliminate this primal feeling, but we can manage it so that our children thrive.
When most people think about narcissism, they think about a full-blown constellation of traits: an inflated sense of one’s own importance, a need for excessive attention and admiration, and a lack of empathy. People who exhibit all of these traits over an extended period of time, without any awareness that they are doing so, are diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). Children raised by parents with NPD suffer, usually growing up to assume either the narcissistic personality of their parent or a self-effacing demeanor of constantly trying to appease and accommodate others…

Hakone part #1

https://youtu.be/DXvBBPcix7c

4 Tips to divorce a borderline woman

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You are divorcing the Borderline mother of your children. Your dissolution of marriage action is getting now here. You are an entrepreneur who owns your own business or you are a middle-to-upper level corporate executive or manager. You are responsible for accomplishing the impossible everyday and you get the job done every day--no matter what. You are a resourceful, educated, creative, motivated problem solver accustomed to dealing with difficult people who has no patience for fools or incompetents and you only work with team players who share your drive to succeed. Naturally, you expect your divorce will proceed the same way you handle the rest of your life.


    Unfortunately, divorcing a Borderline is everything you hate most in life: delays; disruptions of your business routine and personal regimens; dramas bordering on bad theater; impossible, inflexible people; inconsistent demands and confusing signals; serial hurry-up-and-waits; every specie of verbal and behavioral deceit ev…

Is Your Mother a Borderline?

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By
Mark Banschick

A Borderline mother can hurt a child in a heartbeat, and these wounds often co
tinue into adulthood. In this piece, Dr. Daniel Lobel shows us how this abuse occurs and what one can do about it.
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Conversations with people suffering from Borderline Personality Disorder (IBPDs) can deteriorate quickly.
It's like stepping on a bee's nest.
One moment you’re talking normally, and the next, the room shakes with rage, shaming, or hurt. And, for the children of such people, the results are ongoing trauma.
•    A Borderline parent can transform into a brutal parent in the blink of an eye.
Given this inherent instability, children—even, adult children—often find themselves unable to respond effectively to a triggered IBPD parent. This blog describes some common patterns of IBPD thinking, and what one can do about it.  After all, forewarned is forearmed.
Two important notes:
Borderline parents suffer as well. People don't hurt their ch…

What is Talionic thinking/why do people with BPD say horrible things?

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Talionic (eye for an eye) thinking explains a bit why when people with a personality disorder rage they say horrible things.

The art of Antonio Leone

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Antonio Leone's art comes from the Greek world. He follows the fundamental rules settled by Policleto for the harmonious proportions and look at the Hellenic sculptures, for their extreme dynamism in the bodies postures and the astonishing realism of facial’s expression. However Master Leone is a son of his time and in the past forty years he had kept on growing, creating his own identity on his profession. His growth follows the sculpture’s developments in the medieval and Romanesque period and the influence of the latter shows in his altar-frontals and high-relieves. In his journey across centuries, he almost goes beyond Renaissance to reach quickly Baroque, in accordance with his disposition. His sculpture is at the same time strong, visceral and emphatic. In the Priolo’s church , as a matter of fact, the bas-relieves are strong, spiritual figures, visceral at times, speaking to a group of faithful people and exclusively in a decorative language. His…