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10 Reasons You Can’t Communicate with a Narcissistic Borderline Woman

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Emotionally abusive narcissistic and borderline women are masters of spin control and pile driving their “reality” home through brute verbal force and emotional reasoning. If you’re involved with a NPD and/or BPD woman, you know these invective communication strategies firsthand.
This kind of woman clings to her belief system no matter how many times she’s confronted with incontrovertible evidence to the contrary. In fact, the more wrong she is, the greater the outrage and histrionics she displays.
The next time you challenge your BPD/NPD partner’s points of view, lies, distortions, unilateral pronouncements or unfounded accusations, notice how she responds. Your discussion probably turns into a one-sided argument replete with vitriolic theatrics and threats very quickly.
Here are some common communication control tactics of emotionally abusive narcissistic and/or borderline woman:
1. The Big Bamboozle. Here’s how it works: Emotionally abusive woman  begin a conversation/attac…

The 18 things lost forever (which is 19)

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by F.Guzzardi
Theline of thehorizonin NewDelhitheafternoon, when the sun seems to want toride theearth beforeshut downin the silenceof a prayerThe handson yourbraided hairbetweenmy fingersandthe consequencesofall lovesThe desire tosurprising, even with asmileornotalk about anythingThe wordsof the mostdearfriendsthat we have notbeen able torememberThe idealsof anycolorSomeone whoisleftwithout asking permissionThewonderfullicentiousnessofParisian womenTheWorldcup 94Thericotta cheese  ice creamfrom "Giacco"at  SyracuseThe politiciansboringand the funnycomediansOutraged bya warThe desire towatch TVThe last filmofSwarzeneger(suchyou write?)Theassand titsof womenin Italian televisionBerlusconiThe carin a parking lotofWalmartFaithTheline for to seetheSacra SindoneHope (alwaysthe last to die)

14 Signs of Psychological and Emotional Manipulation

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How to spot a manipulator
Psychological manipulation can be defined as the exercise of undue influence through mental distortion and emotional exploitation, with the intention to seize power, control, benefits and/or privileges at the victim’s expense.
It is important to distinguish healthy social influence from psychological manipulation. Healthy social influence occurs between most people, and is part of the give and take of constructive relationships. In psychological manipulation, one person is used for the benefit of another. The manipulator deliberately creates an imbalance of power, and exploits the victim to serve his or her agenda.
Below is a list of fourteen “tricks” manipulative people often use to coerce others into a position of disadvantage, excerpted from by book (click on link): “How to Successfully Handle Manipulative People (link is external)”. This is not meant to be an exhaustive list, but rather a compilation of subtle as well as strident exampl…

Fear of Damage to Children in Polyamorous Families

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In my capacity as an expert on polyamory, I sometimes get quesitons from concerned parents, grandparents, and other well-meaning adults who are worried that polyamorous families might be harmful to children. In this blog series I have already addressed some issues relevant to children in poly families such as the status of children in polyamorous families, when partners leave polyamorous families with children, and how kids deal with their parents' families of origin or other sources of stigma in their lives. Below, I include a concerned parent's question and my response to it. 
Myself and my boyfriend recently have taken on a girlfriend, so we have formed a triad. My question is how do I explain to my young children that this is not a normal lifestyle choice and that it is not expected out of them when they grow older? My mother has expressed concern to me about this because she thinks that me having not only a boyfriend or a girlfriend but having both could be dama…

What Do Hypoactive Sexual Desire and PTSD Have in Common?

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Jeffrey Lieberman M.D.Shrink Speak  The politics of challenged disorders and drug development
The FDA finally approved Addyi, the controversial drug known as the female Viagra, for the treatment of flagging sexual desire in women. Efforts to make such a drug available to women have been ongoing since the introduction of medications to treat sexual dysfunction in 1998, and despite the FDA’s rejection of the drug in 2010 and 2013.
Source: iStock/Used with Permission However, Addyi is no Viagra. Viagra, the blockbuster drug by Pfizer, is indicated for erectile dysfunction in men, which occurs as a function of age and illness (such as diabetes and prostate cancer), and produces dramatic effects with very low risk of serious side effects. Viagra is a proven drug that treats an irrefutable condition.
In contrast, Addyi has only modest therapeutic benefits and a significant risk of adverse effects. Moreover, Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder, the condition that Addyi is inte…