Wednesday, July 23, 2014

6 Tips for Living with a Partner Borderline

Living with & Loving Someone with Borderline Personality Disorder"Only 6 because is very difficult to find more."

By FGuzzardi
We are a psychologically sophisticated society. Emotional difficulties are now shared openly — not only by celebrities but by your average person. It’s not unusual for people to tell friends that they have an anxiety disorder, anger management problem, depression, panic attacks, phobias, eating disorder, substance abuse problem, OCD or ADD.
Yet, there is a widespread psychological disorder that most people know little or nothing about. Why? Because its symptoms are largely interpersonal, causing many to view it as a relationship issue, not a mental health one. Also, people shy away from the term because of its unflattering name: Borderline Personality Disorder.

“Borderline? Am I going over the edge into an abyss? Oh my gosh! Next topic.”
Enough ignorance. Let’s review the major symptoms of people who have borderline personality disorder (BPD):
  • They have turbulent and stormy relationships, making it difficult to keep a job or maintain a close relationship.
  • They have frequent emotional outbursts, often expressing their outrage with verbal abuse, physical attacks or acts of revenge.
  • Though they’re acutely sensitive to being abandoned and rejected, they’re harshly critical of those closest to them.
  • They view others as “good” or “bad.” A friend, parent or therapist may be idealized one day, yet viewed the next day as a terrible person for failing to live up to their expectations.
  • They may act out with self-destructive activity (i.e. reckless driving, compulsive shopping, shoplifting, cutting, bingeing with food, alcohol, drugs or promiscuous sex) as a way to fend off feelings of unbearable emptiness.
Borderline personalities run the gamut from mild to severe. It’s generally only the people who know borderlines intimately who are aware of the extent of their emotional difficulties.
Some sociologists believe that we are living in a “borderline culture,” heavy on righteous anger, light on acknowledging another perspectives. Watch daytime talk shows and you’ll understand what they mean. Or better yet, listen to the rhetoric of Congress and watch them in action (or should I say inaction).
If you recognize your own borderline characteristics, what should you do? If you’re motivated to change, psychotherapy with a psychologist who understands BPD can be quite helpful.
If you’re living with someone with BPD, life probably feels like an emotional roller coaster. So what can you do? Certainly, suggesting psychotherapy is a good idea. Don’t be surprised, however, if he or she uses therapy not to seek understanding but to rage about others. So, if therapy for your loved one is not moving forward, try a few suggestions:

Be consistent and predictable.

Whatever you have told your loved one that you will do (or won’t do), keep your word. If you’re the recipient of a violent outburst of accusations or a tearful meltdown, it won’t be easy. However, if you give in to the outrage, the borderline behavior is reinforced. And if you think your problems are bad now, just wait!

Encourage responsibility.

Don’t become your loved one’s rescuer. Don’t be manipulated into taking responsibility for his irresponsible actions. If he smashes up the car, don’t replace it. If she racks up credit card debt, don’t bail her out. If you keep rescuing her from the consequences of her actions, she will have zero incentive to change.

Offer honest feedback.

Don’t reinforce your loved one’s belief that he’s been treated unfairly unless you actually think that’s true. People with BPD tend to be clueless about how their behavior affects others. Hence, offer honest feedback. Say, “I know it feels rotten when you’re fired” but don’t agree with his assessment that it’s all because of those awful, mean people he worked for.

Don’t escalate the argument.

Your loved one may misinterpret what you mean. Offer constructive criticism and you’re met with a tirade of how despicable you are. Offer a compliment and you’re accused of being patronizing. Explain your intentions and the emotions escalate. Don’t get hooked into a fruitless argument. Do your best to keep your cool and your sanity even though you’re feeling frustrated, powerless and defeated by your loved one’s behavior.
How can you keep your cool and your sanity under incredibly difficult circumstances? Check out these helpful books:
Still want more help? Consider investing in a few therapy sessions for yourself. You’re not the one with the problem, but borderline personality disorder affects the whole family. If you learn skills to cope with your loved one’s behavior, you will all be better off.

Monday, July 21, 2014

How Global Citizens Consume News

SAN FRANCISCO, July 16, 2014   News Republic, a news app that aggregates global news for smartphones, tablets and wearables announced today the results from an annual global survey on how and why people consume news.s News Republic compiled nearly 14,000 responses from people across the world – including the U.S., France, Germany, U.K., Italy and Spain.
"News, it seems, is the connective tissue of humanity," said Gilles Raymond, chief executive officer and founder of News Republic. "In every country surveyed,  'To feel connected to the world' is the top reason given for following the news."
The survey analysis sheds light on similarities and differences in how nationalities engage with the news. Furthermore, the results provide interesting insights into gender's role in engagement with the news.
Similarities In News Consumption Globally
  • 1 out of 2 readers in every country surveyed share the news to show support for a subject.
  • Although national news is most important to every reader in every country, the majority of readers (60%) are also interested in international news. And, everyone is more interested in tech news than business news.
  • 7 out of 10 senior executives in the countries surveyed review the news on mobile apps every day.  1 out of 3 spends 30-60 minutes doing so daily.
  • Results are similar for students across borders: 70% of them use a mobile news app every day. And, 30% of them spend almost an hour on the news every day.
  • The French, Germans and Americans finally agree on something: 7 out of 10 in all three countries agree that following the news helps them have more interesting conversations.
And Some Differences
  • 1 out of 2 Americans read news to feel smarter vs. only 1 out of 50 Spaniards.
  • More than 3 out of 4 French and British readers are not very interested in business news. Germans, Americans and Italians are.
  • 6 out of 10 Americans say following the news helps them make better decisions vs. less than 2 out of 10 Spaniards.
  • The French (43%) are the most likely to share the news to show scorn for a subject, the British (40%) to amuse and Americans (33%) to inspire.
  • The world is split on using wearables to track the news. Half for. Half against.  The strongest sentiments are in Spain and France: 7 out of 10 Spaniards said "Si!" but 7 out of 10 French said "Non!"
Furthermore, the survey explores how and why readers consume and share news:
  • 4 out 5 senior executives use news aggregators to check the news and senior executives are twice as likely as students to share news to inspire.
  • Americans are twice as likely as the French, Spanish and Italians, to share news to inspire others.
  • 1/3 of private-sector workers across the six nations surveyed are heavy users of news aggregators.
  • 3 out of 10 students and senior executives say they spend 30-60 minutes checking news on a mobile each day.
Men vs. Women
  • Men are 30% more likely than women to share news to help or advise a friend or loved one.
  • Men are 40% more likely than women to follow the news to avoid boredom.
  • Women and men are both equally likely to use a wearable to track the news. In all countries, half said "Yes" and half said "No."
About News Republic
News Republic is a disruptive global news syndicator with mobile apps for smartphones (iPhone, Android, Windows), tablets and wearables (Samsung Galaxy Gear and Sony SmartWatch). We believe that those who read better know better. We have made it our mission to provide information with purpose for engaged citizenship. News Republic offers news from 1,000 licensed content partners, shares 25,000 unique articles daily and generates the reading of half a billion articles monthly. Over 12 million people around the globe read their news on News Republic.
Download the News Republic app for Android, iPhone, Windows and Amazon.
For more information, visit the New Republic website: http://www.news-republic.com or connect with us on Facebook, Twitter and LinkedIn.

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Monday, July 14, 2014

Autism Speaks Flip-Flops on Vaccines and Autism, Walks Away From Prevention

 
WATCHUNG, N.J., July 10, 2014  -- There was a time when the world's largest autism charity strongly urged the U.S. government to examine the possibility of a vaccine-autism link. "We believe that the question of whether immunization is associated with an increased risk for ASD [Autism Spectrum Disorder] is of extremely high priority" wrote Dr. Geraldine Dawson, former Chief Science Officer for Autism Speaks, in a 3000-word letter to the National Vaccine Advisory Committee (NVAC) of Health and Human Services. She also warned: "Recent studies point to a key role of the immune system in the biology of ASD, raising questions about the effects of the significant immune challenges associated with vaccinations, particularly when delivered in combination and early in life." That same year (2009), Autism Speaks advocated for federal dollars to be spent on vaccine safety research.
 
That was then. This is now. Autism Speaks has flip-flopped on vaccines, disregarding studies that show a link to autism, and even recommending children with autism be vaccinated with the flu shot (with no warning that most flu shots contain 25 mcgs. of mercury). Over 100 studies show a link between the mercury-based vaccine preservative thimerosal and neurological harm including autism, yet Autism Speaks actively promotes the Center for Disease Control (CDC)'s denial of thimerosal's risks.
The Focus Autism Foundation has sent letters to Autism Speaks' top donors including Toys "R" Us on the subject of Autism Speaks' stance on vaccine safety research. Barry Segal, founder of Focus Autism, quoted a leading scientist who met with Autism Speaks' Co-founder Suzanne Wright several years ago. Wright told the researcher, "Of course vaccines cause autism. It's obvious, but if you tell people that, you'll have rioting in the streets."
Autism Speaks has shifted focus, aligning with the for-profit sector seeking to develop treatments for autism, including drug giant Roche. Dr. Dawson was replaced by Dr. Rob Ring, formerly of Pfizer and Wyeth – manufacturers of vaccines implicated in the autism epidemic.  "There's a real opportunity landscape out there," said Ring of the epidemic now affecting one in 42 boys. So far, Autism Speaks' efforts have not resulted in a drug to treat autism, and many of its studies areduplicative. Even Katie Wright, mother of the boy in whose honor Autism Speaks was founded, has been critical of the organization and its avoidance of vaccine-autism research. She has reported that her son developed normally until a round of vaccines caused a severe and immediate reaction. He then regressed into autism, losing skills and language.
Autism Speaks president Liz Feld maintains "there is no known cause of autism," despite dozens of studies that demonstrate the link to vaccines. The charity does not publicize research such as State University of New York's study of infants who received the Hepatitis B shot on the day of birth. The study concluded that boys who received the shot were three times more likely to become autistic than boys who did not receive it.
On July 1, Autism Speaks posted on its website: "Newest Scientific Review of Vaccine Safety Affirms No Link to Autism."  In the ensuing article, Autism Speaks states "the researchers reviewed all vaccine-safety research published since the 2011 IOM."  However, according to vaccine industry watchdog Dr. Brian Hooker, "The authors of this study looked at only 67 titles in the open literature out of 20,478 found on vaccine adverse events.  So, essentially, they cherry-picked the articles that would paint a rosy picture regarding vaccine safety." He added, "Autism Speaks is not focused on preventing autism or providing the complete autism-vaccine story to the public, and as a result is endangering countless children."
A paper just published in the peer-reviewed scientific journal BioMed Research International reveals how the CDC reworked data in the six studies it relies upon to exonerate the vaccine preservative thimerosal in causing autism.  The CDC purchases $4 billion worth of vaccines per year. Autism Speaks reports $50 million in annual revenues, yet its financial rating from the leading charity evaluator is just two stars out of four.
The Focus Autism Foundation is dedicated to providing information to the public that exposes the cause or causes of the autism epidemic and the rise of chronic illnesses – focusing on the role of vaccinations. A Shot of Truth is an educational campaign sponsored by Focus Autism.
Media Contact: A Shot of Truth, A Shot of Truth, (844)367-2768, info@ashotoftruth.org
 
SOURCE A Shot of Truth

Sunday, July 6, 2014

Jimi Hendrix and the Rasta Rock Opera


WASHINGTON, July 3, 2014  -- The Jim Hendrix Foundation has endorsed the debut album of the Rasta Rock Opera titled "Respect and Love Revolution" as the most important musical score of this generation.  As a preview to the upcoming Rock Opera release, a Hendrix style version of the Star Spangled by Stevie Marco, with Jimi Hendrix live footage superimposed, was released on YouTube on July 1st 2014.

This stunning production by acclaimed director Brad Baerwald of Studio 51, Dunkirk Md., accompanied by entertainment photographer Teo Lee, has utilized the newest technology to merge the two epic performances into one.

Film clips of Hendrix at the Monterey Pop Festival in 1967 where he lit his guitar on fire and smashed it, as well as live performances from Woodstock, Berkeley, and with the Band of Gypsy's are featured in this Epic film.  

The soundtrack of the guitar performance of the Star Spangled Banner is all Stevie Marco as he appears opposite Jimi playing his version of our national anthem, "Hendrix style" in a glorious tribute to our country and the immortal Jimi Hendrix. Clips of drummer Mitch Mitchell also appear with Hendrix opposite Conrad Osipowicz on drums with Stevie Marco.

The "Respect and Love Revolution" album is to be released on the birthday of Jimi Hendrix, November 27th 2014 and consists of 11 compositions within 21 musical movements.  The album took over 160 sessions to complete and was recorded at the Blue Room Music Studio in Bethesda Maryland.

"The upcoming release is going to ignite the youth with a new sound that has a positive message behind it," said Conrad Osipowicz who recorded and co-produced the Respect and Love Revolution Album with Stevie Marco
 
Fifty one musicians including established stars like Cindy Blackman Santana, Joe Brotherton, Buster Williams, and violinist Karen Briggs join fresh new talent from around the globe in this modern day masterpiece.

"The music vibes are like Bob Marley met Jimi Hendrix," says Stevie Marco who is the primary composer and lead guitarist for the Rasta Rock Opera. 

The album has created a loyal underground following anticipating the albums release with over 62,000 followers on Facebook http://facebook.com/RastaRockOpera  and over 190,000 fans having listened to the album preview on Soundcloud http://soundcloud.com/RastaRockOpera.
Contact: Stevie Marco, 240 432-3265, marcostevie@gmail.com
SOURCE Rasta Rock Opera